Oh Boy Part 2

I meant to follow up this first post with another one immediately the day after. And then things kept going up and down like a roller coaster or the Hollywood Tower of Terror Ride at California Adventure. I never knew when to write - when things were going really well or when things sucked. Which changes week by week, day by day. Go figure.

It's been nearly six months and frequently, I'm still stunned. Milestones are knocking me on the head left and right.

1) Told the parents

A couple of weeks ago, he came with me for my dentist appointment. The dentist and the dental hygienist have known me since I was ten and I realized my mom would murder me if she heard from our dentist about the bf before she heard about it from me. So after delaying the inevitable, I casually mentioned him over dinner and the parents took it well without asking more then a dozen questions and a request for a picture.

Flobelly, a fellow Cantonese chick married to a sweet white boy from Ohio (or is it Iowa? I swear I always get those mixed up) put it into perspective for me before I spilled the beans. She merely said "it only gets harder. That will be the easiest part. Wait till the parents meet him and then both parents meet. Awkward...." Eek.

2) Met his family and friends

The trip up north to Seattle was an eye opening experience in many ways. But the most important thing is that I met nearly all of his friends, including his best friend and his mom. So daunting considering that between them both, they've met everyone he's ever brought around. Including the ex-wife and apparently some girl who announced she was Wiccan. Huh.

3) Slowly but surely, we're being outed to the work peeps

Work is hard enough as it is, but having a relationship with someone you work with adds a new dimension of complexity. At first I was really stressed about the fact that technically he reports to me in a way, and that legally that was a big no-no. However, then I realized our company is pretty informal, that's there's like five couples already and the only person who would try to use this against me is the Tool. And even then I pride myself on being completely professional throughout the years, no matter who my work friends were or what stupid guy was treating me poorly. The Tool has got nothing on me.

Plus when the bf let slip to his seatmate that we went up to Seattle together, then mistakenly IMed his seatmate instead of me to give me the heads up, he had to go, "well, now you know." And our coworker merely responded, "yeah, it was no secret." It's almost liberating.

So, the families know. The friends know. The work folks know. Hell, my dentist and the dental hygienist knows. They even gave him a toothbrush. And this sounds kinda bad, but all I can think of is man, if this doesn't work out it is gonna be hell to disentangle and shake off.

Still Restless

Because the "tool" made it impossible for me to take more than a week off this spring, I am taking several mini-vacations until October when I'm hoping to hit up New Zealand with the Bourgeoisie friend on this tour.

So out of this previous list, I've managed to hit up #7 San Diego so far.

This Friday, I'm back at #3 Seattle (more on that later), mid-May I'm off to #2 New York and #1 San Francisco by end of next month. Almost veered off to Portland or Austin instead of NY because of scheduling conflicts with friends, but in the end I can't stay away from New York and all its glorious shopping and food.

As for fleeing the country, #6 Toronto is still a possibility this summer and Bizarro Twin mentioned Croatia possibly next year. I still have no idea what's going on with Japan.

Darn work gets in the way of fun and travel. But I guess I need to earn enough funding to actually go places.

A Few Flicks

Despite all the drama of work and boy the past several weeks, I did manage to squeeze in a few entertaining flicks.

21 - I love gambling movies. Especially ones based on a true story. Even if the true story actually involved more Asians, less violence, and less romance. It was still fun and got me in the mood to go clubbing, which I did, this past Saturday.

Leatherheads - I actually hate football, but this was a fun throwback to those old fashioned screwball comedies with lots of witty banter. And it was kinda cool to see how football started. Renee Zellweger is getting weirder looking, George Clooney is looking old but still dashing, and John Krasinski is cute but not as cute as when he's in The Office.

The Waterhorse - So cute. Scottish accents, baby lochness monster, and overall a sweet story. I'd watch it again. And I'm sure kids will love it too.

Lust Caution - Total 180 from the previous flick. Beautiful film, beautiful actress, amazing scenery. But wow. You go, repressed Chinese people! When Jigaho said she had seen soft core porn more toned down than this, I was impressed. And I think that describes it perfectly. But love scenes aside, it was an intriguing film, all 2 1/2 hours of it. I even watched the "Making of" documentary afterwards.

Gone Baby Gone - It started off a little slow and quite talky. Actually the bf got bored and I had to finish it alone. But, man it was worth it. It was a great film and I am impressed with the brothers Affleck. So many twists and turns and at the end of the movie, it leaves you thinking about what you would have done. Moral quandaries are always fun.

Lars and the Real Girl - Cute quirky film. Ryan Gosling is such a great actor. And after the initial "ew that's gross, people actually buy those?!" they made the real doll almost like a real person that you felt for. Weird. And a little sad. But overall a sweet story about how much a community will pull together for one of its own. Almost makes you want to live in a small town.

I'm excited that the movie blockbuster season is almost upon us, especially Indiana Jones! Until then, more catching up on rentals and watching whatever I can get my hands on.

Crybaby

God damn hormones.

I was watching the movie The Last of the Mohicans this afternoon, a movie I've watched many times back in the previous decade because the music alone hooks me in. And oh my god, the chemistry between Daniel Day Lewis and Madeline Stowe is phenomenal - I was once read a review that said the passion between their eyeballs alone could carry the scene where they just stare at each other before running into each other's arms. But now I digress.

Anyway, it's a movie I've seen many times before without shedding a single tear. Because hey, it's a happy ending right? The two main characters end up with each other and all is good in the world of love. But today, as with everything I watch these days except maybe horror films, I was bawling. Why did that guy have to die for someone who didn't love him back? Why did the other guy have to die so foolishly without waiting for his backup? And jeez, why did that girl throw herself off the cliff after this guy she barely knew? Everything was just so unfair and sad!

I can't quite pinpoint what's wrong, but it's a good week when I can go the whole week without shedding tears. Often, the quivery feeling lasts for days, when anything can set off the deluge. I feel slightly mental.

Work and the bf take turns making me cry and that is not good. I either need to toughen up or take some drugs.

Old Friend

You know how when you go a long time without talking to certain close friends, you keep putting it off until you can set aside a good chunk of time to REALLY catch up and focus on that endeavor? It's kinda what's happening here. Poor neglected blog. I just need to post and nurture it a little more consistently, even if it's smaller posts and random bits of info. Even if it's not really proofread or polished, slightly incoherent and insane.

And with that, here's a picture of the latest resident on my couch, won by the bf at Legoland because he loves carnival games oh so much, regardless of what the prize is.